• Alina COSTIN “Aurel Vlaicu” University of Arad


parental narcissism; co-narcissism; abuse; co-narcissism; educators; reporting abuse


The paper aims at an integrative review of current knowledge about narcissistic parenting, and the impact of this disorder on the child. A child can experience the most hidden forms of abuse in his or her own family when one or both parents experience narcissistic personality disorders. The pattern of action specific to this family includes practices such as manipulation, non-compliance with barriers, enhancement, triangulation, isolation, hoovering, projection etc. tactfully exercised by the narcissistic parent for the purpose of acquiring the control and power absolutely necessary for his deconstructed self. The child of a narcissistic parent will experience repeated adversity (Crocker, 2009; Monk, 2001) that will affect his mental health, and according to some theories (Menzies, 2010) this unhealthy family dynamic will repeat itself. In this harmful environment, the child will grow up with unrealistic expectations from himself and others against the background of an uncontaminated and negative self, you will encounter difficulties of healthy relationship as well as in privacy.  This work aimed at educational professionals in order to become aware of the seriousness of the abuse experience and to familiarize themselves with its less visible symptoms.


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